DO U EVER JUST REMEMBER SOMEONE WHO PRETTY MUCH FUCKED UP YOUR LIFE AND THEN UR LIKE WOW I WAS SO FUCKING STUPID TO ALLOW THEM INTO MY LIFE FOR A STARTERS WHY DIDN’T I PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE WHILE I HAD THE CHANCE I’M GLAD THEY ARE GONE BY NOW
And then I remind myself that it was their choice to mistreat me (not mine), and to stop blaming myself.
If someone ever did that to you, one of the most important things you can do is work to understand and accept that it was their choice to do that, and that it is not your fault. Asking questions like “Why did I let that happen?” only increases the amount of pain you experience. Moving past blaming yourself, and remembering it was their choice to treat you that way, is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.